Dear Colleagues,I have been doing some thinking about how important it is that a leader has self-awareness. This key characteristic came up in a variety of ways in research that Kim Henderson and Dan Sheffield have been doing on the characteristics of a healthy pastor. They have found from interviews that they have conducted among pastors of healthy churches that over and over again, the healthy pastor is “self-aware.”
But what does it mean to be self-aware? This is a topic that I have been turning over in my mind and here’s some of what I have come up with so far.
Self-aware leaders keep in touch with what is going on inside themselves. Thinking of the presentation that Cliff Fletcher gave us at the recent Ministers conference, they know where their physical, emotional and spiritual gauges are and they are paying attention! Speaking realistically, there are seasons of leadership that demand that one go full out for a time in order to see a major project through or to manage an extreme crisis. But then there needs to be some replenishing and self aware leaders know what needs to be done to bring the levels back up
Healthy, self-aware leaders also perceive realistically how others see them. They know how to find the middle ground between being selfishly indifferent about how they are impacting others and self-consciously worrying about how they are being perceived. Healthy leaders seem to have this capacity to observe the social cues that others are sending and adapt appropriately.
Here at the Ministry Centre this week we are having a staff training time in which we are looking at our Myers Briggs scores. I’ve done this before with the NLT and NMEGaP and I have always found it helpful to understand others as well as myself particularly on things like how differently we communicate, handle change, respond under stress, deal with conflict, etc. The surprising thing is that unless we have some level of self-and other-awareness, we can assume that others see things in exactly the same way we do and, of course, this is not the case.
I hope that you are all following through on sending your network the “commits” that came to you while we were at the Ministers Conference that you want to be asked about at your next network meeting. To be honest with all of you (and before my network calls me on it), I have to admit that I haven’t done this yet, but it’s on my To Do list for this week. I found Dan Sheffield’s transformative languages material very helpful and I was glad to see that he sent it out to all of us last week so that we can have it to use personally and perhaps with our churches. I also intend to use the APEST Inventory to see what I can also learn about myself from it. I mentioned this in earlier Bishop’s Notes and here is the link to that resource: http://www.theforgottenways.org/apest/
While all of the things that I have been writing about above are important for any leader, leaders who are Christ-followers are also humbly aware of where they are before God. The apostle James writes about this in his typically blunt fashion and I like the intensity that Eugene Peterson brings into his paraphrase in The Message when he writes in James 1:22-25:
22-24Don’t fool yourself into thinking that you are a listener when you are anything but, letting the Word go in one ear and out the other. Act on what you hear! Those who hear and don’t act are like those who glance in the mirror, walk away, and two minutes later have no idea who they are, what they look like.
25But whoever catches a glimpse of the revealed counsel of God—the free life!—even out of the corner of his eye, and sticks with it, is no distracted scatterbrain but a man or woman of action. That person will find delight and affirmation in the action.
So, keep growing as a leader. Pay attention to your inner and your relational life and let the Lord and your colleagues (especially your accountability partner) help you to continue to grow in your effectiveness as a leader among God’s people.
There are no new announcements this week.
Have a great week serving Jesus.
P.S. Remember. If you are wondering about something related to the FMCIC and its ministry, please send your question to the Ministry Centre.
Have a look at Dan Sheffield’s blog: http://sheffield.typepad.com
Felix Chow – November 7, 2010 at 3:00 pm at Malvern Chinese FMC, Scarborough, ON
Fred Merritt – November 14, 2010 at 3:00 pm at Dunnville FMC, Dunnville, ON
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2011 GENERAL CONFERENCE
May 20-23, 2011 – Toronto Marriott Airport Hotel
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